Support between meetings when things are hardest.
Support, fulfillment, and meaning for both mentor and mentee.
Boosted meeting participation (research).
Sharing: exchanges (by phone, text, or whatever works) that illuminate the healing journey.
Caring: non-judgemental listening, compassion, and encouragement for stability and hope.
Learning: exploring and developing the skills of healing and thriving together.
Questioning: inquiring into self-care, boundaries, and alternative perspectives.
How could you best be supported right now?
Do you want me to just listen or respond?
What might a healthy, wise, compassionate, adult do in your situation?
Celebrating: recognizing and acknowledging progress, especially when it is hard to see.
Reciprocating: mentor and mentee are both uplifted in their mutual growth.
Supporting: please reach out to the mentorship coordinator for support, with questions, or to provide feedback.
Request a mentor (for new HEAL members who have attended 2+ meetings).
Request to be a mentor (for experienced HEAL members with 1+ years in HEAL or similar healing). Mentors need feel 100% healed, but have the following qualities.
Safe to maintain privacy and professionalism.
Available to reach out and respond reliably.
Compassionate with empathy and non-judgement.
Present to hold mentees with equanimity.
Positive in thoughts, words, and actions.
Authentic in giving honest perspectives.
Engaged in meetings with mentees.
Self-caring to keep mentoring healthy.
Mentors and mentees are from the same group.
Genders and/or sexual orientations are considered to maximize safety, including for partners.
Similarities (such as age, reconciliation status, stage of recovery, children etc.) are also considered.
Mentoring is typically for one season (3 months) but could be two seasons (6 months).
Either mentee or mentor can move on at any time, wish the other well, and let the mentorship coordinator know.
Mentees may find another mentor or move into a mentor role themselves.
Mentors are re-matched periodically, or can let the coordinator know they are retiring or taking a break.
HEAL members have access to a private forum where they can reply to the author of any post individually (rather than the whole group). Note the person may not reply and email addresses are hidden.
